So, You’re Planning a Wedding
I’m not only knee-deep in bridal in my professional life, I’m also planning my own wedding. Yes, I’m eating, sleeping and breathing tulle and lace!
Before I said, “yes,” to my husband-to-be, I was a bridesmaid in seven—yes, seven—weddings. And that’s not including ceremonies in which I’ve been a reader or had to perform a function such as “Mother-of-the-Groom Patrol.”
As I share my wedding journey with all of you, I thought I’d start with the top three tips I’ve collected from my bridesmaid-extraordinaire experience.
1. Ask yourself, “Is this really crucial to my wedding?”
I have a friend who OBSESSED about having ice sculptures at her wedding reception. She spent weeks selecting the designs, planning where they would be displayed, and spending oodles of money on them. Guess what? The day of the wedding, those ice sculptures didn’t arrive and she never noticed (Not to worry, she received a full refund.). The lesson here, choose items that truly represent you and your husband-to-be; that years from now, you will say, “That was so worth it!” Stay away from any extras that will only create more stress and decision-making, especially since you may be too busy to even recognize them the day of your wedding.
2. For goodness’ sake, EAT!
A PSA to all the Maids of Honor out there, make it your duty to feed the bride and groom. While the happy couple should absolutely thank each guest during the reception, they still need to eat or they will fade…and it will hit them like a wine-fueled ton of bricks. A skilled catering company will know to serve the bride and groom first, but that never stops Aunt Mildred from coming up to the Sweetheart Table to tell the bride how much she looks like her mother on her wedding day—then reminisce for 20 minutes. The quick-thinking MOH should politely tell good ol’ Mildred that the happy couple would love to talk more after they have received sustenance for the evening.
3. Delegation is paramount
Weddings can bring out the control FREAK in brides. I get it. In some cases, it’s necessary. There are multiple plates spinning at once and if you forget about one, they all may fall. I’m guilty of “Bridal Control Freakism” myself. Whether it’s because you don’t want to burden anyone else or you’re afraid that delegation=dropping plates, you may be taking on too much yourself. In the end, it means more people will be coming to you with questions because they are not in the loop. Let people help you. Assign items to your groom. They want to be part of the minutiae. Trust me!
I’m learning and observing so many things as I dive deeper in wedding plandom. I’ll share more if you share. What are your top three tips?